Sexual desire, communication, satisfaction, and preferences of men and women in same-sex versus mixed-sex relationships

J Sex Res. 2009 Jan-Feb;46(1):57-66. doi: 10.1080/00224490802645294.


In an online study, measures of subjective sexual experiences in one's current relationship were compared across four groups: Men and women in mixed-sex (i.e., heterosexual) and same-sex (i.e., homosexual) relationships. Results indicated far more similarities than differences across the four groups, with groups reporting almost identical sexual repertoires, and levels of sexual communcation with partner. Men reported experiencing somewhat more sexual desire than women, while women reported slightly higher levels of general sexual satisfaction than men. Those in same-sex relationships reported slightly higher levels of sexual desire than those in mixed-sex relationships. Compared to the other three groups, heterosexual men reported deriving somewhat less satisfaction from the more tender, sensual, or erotic sexual activities. Implications of these findings for sex therapists are discussed.

Publication types

  • Comparative Study

MeSH terms

  • Adolescent
  • Adult
  • Analysis of Variance
  • Arousal
  • Communication
  • Female
  • Heterosexuality / psychology*
  • Homosexuality / psychology*
  • Humans
  • Internet
  • Interpersonal Relations*
  • Male
  • Middle Aged
  • Personal Satisfaction
  • Sex Distribution
  • Sexual Behavior / psychology*
  • Young Adult