Dendritic spines are small protrusions on a neuronal dendrite that are the main locus of excitatory synaptic connections. Although their geometry is variable over time and along the dendrite, they typically consist of a relatively large head connected to the dendritic shaft by a narrow cylindrical neck. The surface of the head is connected smoothly by a funnel or non-smoothly to the narrow neck, whose end absorbs the particles at the dendrite. We demonstrate here how the geometry of the neuronal spine can control diffusion and ultimately synaptic processes. We show that the mean residence time of a Brownian particle, such as an ion or molecule inside the spine, and of a receptor on its membrane, prior to absorption at the dendritic shaft depends strongly on the curvature of the connection of the spine head to the neck and on the neck's length. The analytical results solve the narrow escape problem for domains with long narrow necks.