Background: Given the worldwide ageing of the population and the changes in the structure of society and family, the likelihood increases that older parents face a serious illness in an adult child and will even outlive their child.
Objectives: To gain insight into older parents' experiences, concerns, and dilemmas regarding their position and role as a parent of an adult child with cancer.
Design: Qualitative interview design.
Setting: A geriatric ward and four oncology wards of a university hospital, several nursing homes, local health service agencies.
Participants: Twenty-five parents (age range 65-91 years) of 22 adult children with cancer (age range 33-66 years) of differing stages and types (with a preponderance of breast cancer).
Methods: Using a qualitative research methodology underpinned by grounded theory, we conducted semi-structured interviews with a fairly open framework.
Results: Suffering in silence emerged as the core category encapsulating three interrelated balancing acts: (1) shielding their child while being shielded by their child, (2) being involved while keeping an adequate distance, and (3) shifting attentional priorities between their child, themselves, and others. The emotional interconnectedness between older parents and their adult child with cancer becomes tangible in the transformational process of their parental role and position described in the three balancing acts.
Conclusions: Faced with their child's illness and possible death, older parents experience overwhelming feelings often underestimated by their (close) environment. Nurses need to be susceptible for the needs and experiences of these older parents. For care by nurses to make a difference, their attention must be directed to how older parents can be invigorated in their parenthood while respecting the child's autonomy.
Keywords: Adult children; Cancer; Caregiver stress; Family relationships; Grounded theory; Older adults; Parenthood; Qualitative research; Role.
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