The reactions of dimesitylphosphane oxide Mes2P(O)H with Lawessons reagent and dimesitylphoshane with selenium yield Mes2P(E)H with E = S (1a) and E = Se (1b), respectively, with moderate yields. Metalation of dimesitylphosphane sulfide 1a with n-butyllithium, sodium hydride or potassium hydride in THF allows the isolation of dinuclear dimesityl-thiophosphinites of the type [(thf)2A-S-PMes2]2 [A = Li (4), Na (5), K (2a)] with central four-membered A2S2 rings. The weaker base THP leads to the very similar aggregate [(thp)2K-S-PMes2]2 (3a) as has also been observed for the homologous potassium dimesityl-selenophosphinites of the type [(L)2K-Se-PMes2]2 [L = thf (2b), thp (3b)]. Addition of 18-crown-6 ether leads to deaggregation and expectedly to formation of mononuclear [(18C6)K-S-PMes2] (6). Moderate yields have been obtained due to dismutation reactions that yield the corresponding phosphinates AE2PMes2 and phosphanides APMes2, a degradation process which has been observed earlier also for Li-O-PMes2. This side reaction hampers the application of these thio- and selenophosphinites as catalysts in the addition of phosphane sulfides and selenides across alkynes.