Allogeneic hematopoietic cell transplantation (HCT) is one of the only curative treatment options for patients suffering from life-threatening hematologic malignancies; yet, the possible adverse complications can be serious even fatal. Matching between donor and recipient for 4 of the HLA genes is widely accepted and supported by the literature. However, among 8/8 allele matched unrelated donors, there is less agreement among centers and transplant physicians about how to prioritize donor characteristics like additional HLA loci (DPB1 and DQB1), donor sex/parity, CMV status, and age to optimize transplant outcomes. This leads to varying donor selection practice from patient to patient or via center protocols. Furthermore, different donor characteristics may impact different post transplant outcomes beyond mortality, including disease relapse, graft failure/rejection, and chronic graft-versus-host disease (components of event-free survival, EFS). We develop a general methodology to identify optimal treatment decisions by considering the trade-offs on multiple outcomes modeled using Bayesian nonparametric machine learning. We apply the proposed approach to the problem of donor selection to optimize overall survival and event-free survival, using a large outcomes registry of HCT recipients and their actual and potential donors from the Center for International Blood and Marrow Transplant Research (CIBMTR). Our approach leads to a donor selection strategy that favors the youngest male donor, except when there is a female donor that is substantially younger.