Being alone after late-life divorce: freedom and loneliness from an intergenerational familial/dyadic perspective

Aging Ment Health. 2025 Jan;29(1):176-184. doi: 10.1080/13607863.2024.2377264. Epub 2024 Jul 11.

Abstract

Objectives: To examine in-depth experiences of loneliness and freedom after late-life divorce from an intergenerational familial/dyadic perspective in a family-oriented society that also values self-determination. Considering the expansion of late-life divorce, it is important to understand its consequences for the family wellbeing.

Method: According to phenomenology tradition, data was collected through 51 semi-structured qualitative interviews, comprised from 7 family units (n = 33) including all/most family members and 9 parent-child dyads (n = 18), using thematic-analysis and dyadic interview-analysis principles. Analyzing family units enables a more complex examination of the phenomena, providing a holistic view of family life.

Results: Loneliness and freedom experienced simultaneously was the most common. A gap was identified between generations regarding benefits and costs of late-life divorce. Whereas most divorcees emphasized the benefits of freedom, most of their adult-children mainly described the disadvantages of loneliness, perceiving both loneliness and freedom as negative.

Conclusion: Late-life divorce is a complex experience comprised of both loneliness and freedom. Each generation experiences the benefits and costs of late-life divorce differently. Unique aspects of freedom and loneliness at old age in a socio-cultural context located between self-determination and family-oriented are discussed, including strategies of coping with loneliness. Implications for families and professionals are presented.

Keywords: Late-life divorce; familial/dyadic intergenerational perspective; freedom; loneliness; qualitative research.

MeSH terms

  • Adult
  • Adult Children / psychology
  • Aged
  • Aged, 80 and over
  • Divorce* / psychology
  • Family / psychology
  • Female
  • Freedom*
  • Humans
  • Intergenerational Relations
  • Loneliness* / psychology
  • Male
  • Middle Aged
  • Personal Autonomy
  • Qualitative Research*